"I'm Not Lovable" and all that means
In his DVD series The Palace of Possibilities, Gary Craig talks about the Writings on Our Walls. These are limiting beliefs which probably stem from our childhood; the beliefs of our parents, teachers, peers, and anyone "in authority". These beliefs were modelled for us in one form or another by actions or words and we have taken them to be "truth". These truths include such beliefs as, "I'm not lovable", "I'm not good enough", "I have to be perfect", "I'm a nuisance to everyone", etc.
What fascinates me about this is we are not born this way: we adapt beliefs as a coping strategy to help us get through life. Certain beliefs are debilitating and limiting and prevent us from reaching our fullest potential. If someone is seriously ill or in pain, limiting beliefs will prevent the healing process. Likewise, if someone is wanting to become slimmer, limiting beliefs will block the process, and so on.
When I start working with clients, it's often the case that these kinds of limiting beliefs are preventing them from enjoying a healthy, successful, happy life. I firmly believe EFT is a process. Yes, there are definitely "one-minute wonders", but most usually, EFT involves peeling away a series of layers to locate the core issue (i.e. that limiting belief) and clearing that belief so the person can move forward and enjoy life and good health.
Recently, a number of clients have revealed to me they "are not lovable". Each person has different reasons for the writings on their walls but as this appeared to be a dominant theme, I've chosen to use it for this month's tapping transcription.
With your dominant hand, tap the karate chop point on the other hand while saying the following:
"Even though maybe I don't want to get over the belief that I'm not lovable, I do want to accept myself
Even though I was taught as a child I wasn't lovable, I want to love myself now
Even though I don't deserve to let this go, I really do want to put it behind me."
Now tap the following places while saying each of the phrases below:
Top of head: this belief that I'm not lovable
eyebrow: these negative messages from my childhood
side of eye: which are still impacting me today
under eye: and for some reason, I don't want to get over this
under nose: I don't deserve to let it go
chin: I'm hurting so much
collarbone: and I don't know if I can love myself enough
under arm: because I don't know how to
top of head: what if I am lovable?
eyebrow: I'm assuming I'm not but I don't have to believe that
side of eye: what if I could let this belief go?
under eye: I want to put it behind me
under nose: I deserve to put it behind me
chin: this is not who I am!
collarbone: and I don't have to believe it
under arm: I want to choose to believe I am lovable
Disclaimer: In tapping along to this transcript, you take full responsibility for your health and well being.
About the author: Annabel Fisher is a licensed NLP Practitioner and runs a successful EFT practice. Find relief from pain, chronic illness, fears and phobias, headaches and migraines, weight issues and more through EFT. Get your free "The Essentials of EFT Guide" plus one-hour EFT Q&A audio recording by signing up for her newsletter at: www.theefthealingcentre.com.